I (F21) can't have sex but I want to. Any advice?

[Ducklin]

I want to have sex! But my body won't allow it, literally! I'm a virgin, l've tried it many times with different men, good and bad. I can confirm, it's not them. It's me. My body will literally clench shut and I get turned off so fast. Like I'm in the mood, legs spread then suddenly I'm like, omg what if I look stupid? Boom turn off. Or they try to put it in but I cannot relax enough. No, it's not trust. Cause I trust my boyfriend, and the past men before that. It's just..l don't know! Am I nervous? Or I need to drink alcohol? Should I just loose it to myself, like a dildo then try with a man? Yall, a girl wants dickkk!!

 

[SpiderWolf]

Focus on the pleasure rather than your appearance?
Don't bring alcohol, or any mind altering substance for that matter, into the act.
Tell him you need more stimulation. Spice it up.
What turns you on the most? What makes your body crave and ache to be filled up over and over again?
If you're truly ready your body will follow. The mind leads, the body follows.
But without communication there's always going to be that mental block. Make sense?
Or perhaps your subconscious is telling you something else? Maybe you need a woman rather than a man? It would be understandable, to me anyway.
The act is, in raw essence, the same as being... Violated? Fear of having something put inside of your body?
Sit him down and talk about how you feel. No offence but I honestly doubt you'll get sound advice on here. Mine included.
Maybe you don't feel the connection needed to submit to the act?
Ever tried being the one in control? It could be of help. Being the one who controls and Either ends or continues?It could make you feel safer?

Either way good luck.

 

[Alexa]

Have you been able to masturbate? Ever? Maybe see a doctor…